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Sunday, August 26, 2012

Calling all artists: Smyrna Firehouse Art Competition

Calling all artists: Smyrna Firehouse Art Competition


For people who like to be in control and want things done a certain way (like myself) learning to delegate can be painful. While trying to juggle two kids, school, home, work, and personal relationships I quickly learned that it was the only means of survival for me.

Delegating meant that I would have to trust others to take as much care as I did in completing tasks or learning to be okay with things being done differently. I can be a bit self righteous at times, okay, okay, more than a bit. So this was not an easy feat for me.

I realized that I would have to let go a little bit at the time and learn to be okay with it as I went. I also learned that when I asked others (especially my daughters) for help it gave them a sense of empowerment that they were able to help.

Delegate a little at a time and be careful to give people tasks that they will enjoy and be good at. Don't feel bad that you can't do it ALL. Asking for help is sometimes necessary to living a balanced life.

Thursday, August 16, 2012


These quotes speak volumes to me about personal attitude. Life is not always easy, but if you choose to be happy despite everything that is on your plate you are sure to accomplish so much more. You can't go wrong with a positive attitude and hard work!

Saturday, August 11, 2012

What are your priorities?

You know that feeling when the realization of I have to go to work/school, the kids need something or have to be somewhere at a specific time, the house is a wreck, the laundry pile has now turned into a mountain, and you have a big project due. Well the way I overcame having to deal with that feeling on a regular basis was to prioritize my life leading me to manage better my time.

What are your priorities?

Mine are first and foremost my daughters followed by my husband, work, and taking care of my home (not necessarily in that order!). Defining your personal priorities is integral to being successful, especially for those people who always have a full plate.

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I have found over the years that when I begin to feel overwhelmed with everything life is throwing at me that if I take time to consider what needs to be done and prioritize it, I am much more successful in accomplishing my goals. I get the most important things completed first and then I feel better about the situation and have renewed energy. The renewed energy allows me to do even more than I thought I could originally. 


Once you have prioritized everything then you can fill in your schedule and you will see better time management. I cannot stress enough to you how important this step is in leading you to successfully reach your goals and come out ahead at the end of the day.

Thursday, August 9, 2012


Choose your thoughts and you will have a better mindset that will allow you to accomplish so much more.

Go ahead and give it a try!

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Time Management

So you have a gazillion things to do and are behind on a gazillion others. You feel the walls caving in on you and you have no idea how you will ever get caught up. Well my friend, it is all about time management and prioritizing.

Now is the hard part, you need to write down your schedule for a typical day from the time you wake until the time you slumber. Why is this hard, because this is where you will have to be honest to yourself about the amount of time you waste in a day. Think about what you can get done in the time you are veging out in front of the television. I know what you are thinking, yes we all deserve free time in our day, and believe me you will get plenty of free time once you get caught up and and learn to follow a schedule.

Next, you have to sit down and consider all of your tasks. What is of utmost importance, what would you make you feel better to get done, and what is not all that important. Write it down, it helps one to remember when they can visualize and by writing things down you can visualize your list as you go through your day and if all else fails, you have your list to refer back to.

As you complete a task that is on the list, mark it off. With each mark, you will feel a sense of accomplishment and the walls will start opening up.

Sunday, August 5, 2012

How to become a good face to face communicator

From time to time, we are all guilty of not being good communicators, but then there are those people that it seems are never listening when you talk to them. They are usually very overwhelmed and feel they have too much to do to take a few minutes to stop, look, and listen to the person speaking to them. This can be detrimental to even the best relationships.

Okay, so I have stated the three things that are integral to effective communication. Can you believe speaking isn't one of them? So many times people talk incessantly because they are uncomfortable with silence or maybe they are so wrapped up in getting their thoughts out there that they can't fathom not talking. Silence really is golden! Listening is a very important part of communicating and if you are constantly talking or interrupting then you are NOT listening.

So now, let me delve deeper into the stop, look, and listen part of communicating.


Put down whatever you are doing, turn away from the television, computer screen or other device and place your attention on the person speaking to you. Really, it is a matter of respect, at this point and you cannot concentrate on the person speaking if you are preoccupied.


Look at the person speaking to you. Communication is not all about words. Other factors such as body language, tone, rate, pitch, and breathing are also part of communication. Paying close attention to these factors will give you even more information such as how the person is feeling; whether it is an urgent or emotional matter, etc.


Let the speaker finish speaking before responding. The speaker will get a feel for your opinion on the matter through your own body language as he is speaking. Once the speaker is finished, reflect on what was said and then respond.

Following these simple rules will drastically improve your ability to communicate effectively with others. Remember to stop, look, and listen the next time someone wants to speak with you. You will see improvement in all of your relationships, personal and business.

- Stephanie Brendel

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